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I just recently reached my two years wedding anniversary and it brought to my mind the vows which I have taken to devote my life loving my husband day in and day out.
… to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.
Then it hit me that a major part of that vow comes from that which makes us happy. In relations to blogging, I thought how it applies to one’s overall progress. Without thinking, I listed the points which became important in my mind.
- Communication
- Understanding
- Support
- Compatibility
Somehow I saw the long-term commitment which will carry both my husband and I beyond the fluctuations of life. That vision there helped me secure the investment which I have opted to carry on my back and it’s the same one which I have with blogging right now.
Now I want to share with you the thoughts behind those elements of which has kept me happy but most importantly enabled me to keep my vow as a wife, woman and definitely a blogger. I would love to hear how the elements below apply to you and whether there are any others in regards to marriage, blogging, living or being. Please share them in the comments below.
Element 1 – Communication
No bond is secure just from shaking hands alone. Sometimes you have to grip harder or even let the other person know that you don’t like the way your hand is being gripped in order for them to loosen up.
I find myself unable to hold my tongue when I’m seeing something which continuously raises a red flag. While I may fail to stop it the first few time around, I believe in analyzing it’s history, I’ve made a better choice instead.
It is the same thing with blogging which over time comes with practice. You definitely don’t know what you’re in for yet. You just know that you’re doing it for some apparent reason.
At first you need to go out there and present yourself, show up and participate. Over time, filtering out what works and even voicing your thoughts through blogging will let others know what you are thinking.
It’s a matter of perspective though and if the advice you’re giving out is timely, the understanding will surely take flight. Thus, effective communication starts with you and what you have noticed or want changed. In sharing that with the blogosphere, you’re also devoted to changing you.
Element 2 – Understanding
You can’t say you understand something unless you’ve been there or done that. So while marriage was new for both my husband and I, I’ve learned that we both don’t really understand ourselves. It’s in each other that we see our true colors.
This is absolutely true online. Who you interact with, how you devote yourself to the topics you’re passionate about are keys to understanding who you are. It is also one reason why the numbers matter.
Voices bring reason to those who interact. Without much as a dialogue you’re good as a soliloquy.
To be or not to be– that is the question – Hamlet
Element 3 – Support
As I grow to understand my husband, his support was really the glue factor which binds us closer. There will be times which I’ll admit, I’m not the greatest in the world but his blind faith and heart towards our love sealed our troubles with a kiss.
In blogging, you’ll find that the community you’re in is very important. It can become a matter of love and guidance to abandonment and loss of direction. Just like your own personal relationship in life, you have to build your relationships online. No matter the hardships you face, supporting one another through the journey is a fight worth building muscles for.
Overtime, you’ll find that it wasn’t that hard at all. In fact, when I look back I’m amazed at the milestones we’ve reached. That can be said the same for blogging since my 100th post has become somewhat of a journey to be proud of. In getting there, I find myself proactively blogging more.
Element 4 – Compatibility
I use to think that compatibility was the number one element towards making it work in a relationship. Now that it has dropped down to the last of the list, here are some reasons why:
- the little things don’t matter
- you’re not always right
- there are other options
The little things which I’ve noticed and has become annoying to a point where it bothers me is something I have decided to not care about anymore. When I see it that way, I don’t have to put so much emotions into wasting my energy trying when I know it cannot be changed. As for you, my dear blogger, know what you can change not the other way around, who you can change.
Another thing is ego tends to hog the situation when any problem arises. Taking care of business requires two minds and sometimes more than that. Decisions are definite when you’re making them with clear choices, not in a heated debate.
Some bloggers may argue with this but I see the more louder you become, the less you’ll say. You may get the numbers now but in the long run, you’ll run out of fuel and that will create more heated decisions which will not help you any at all.
Finally, knowing that I had the option to see things on the bright side really elevate the happiness of my relationship more. Not only did I saw myself get intuned with society but I’m more stable with me. It led to one of the outlets which helps and that is blogging.
Knowing that I have grown so much over the last few months, I want to continue forth in the next coming months as well. Who knows it can take years to understand what I’m bound to at the moment. Overall, blogging has become a habit which keeps my relationship with me intact. Most importantly knowing who I’m compatible with out there keeps me blogging selflessly more.
What are some elements to your blogging? Share your thoughts below.
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Twitter: vancesova
says:
Hi Thu,
What a post of wisdom put together so intricately.
Comparing the growth and maturing of a person and their relationship to a loved one with the blogging adventure and it’s growing pains and pleasures is a clever move.
Blogging can be an outlet and an instrument of growth as well as a revelation of who we are even to our own selves.
It doesn’t happen every day or very often but while writing a post or a response to a comment or commenting on someone’s blog what comes out can be surprising.
It can be very creative or it can reveal a talent or a flaw which would have otherwise remained hidden to me and to the world.
In addition to the great way a blog can serve as a communication tool and a gathering place of people from all over the world where they can voice their views and interact freely, it is the small surprising things that pop up unexpectedly that make it so exciting to be a blogger.
That’s how I see it.
Vance
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Twitter: thublogger
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Hello Vance,
My word-of-blog friend.
Your views on the unexpected nature of our actions are valid. In fact, I find myself learning from that all the time. It’s just allowing yourself to become used to the idea of making things happen that you no longer look at it with a certain narrow view but more as see them as probable opportunities. Thus, the surprise factor which you’ve stated is one of the many joys of being a blogger. You don’t know what you’ll get until you try. Thanks so much for your kind words as well as launching off the challenge! I’ll see you on your blog soon.
Dawww, that’s fantastic Thu and very awesome that you were able to bridge marriage into a post about blogging. It actually makes a lot of sense because the same fundamentals hold true for marriage as it does for any relationship (whether it being blogging or otherwise) – all the things you said are what makes it work out in the end.
On a side note, my girlfriend and I are about to be at our 1 year anniversary and the post also helped me realize a few things about our relationship – communication being one of the big ones
Murlu´s last [type] ..How To Do Twice The Work- In Half The Time- Without The Headache
Twitter: thublogger
says:
One thing I’ve noticed Murray is that the more I blog, there becomes a fine line between distinguishing building relationships online as well as off. So instead of living a double life, being sensible of who you are in terms of your immediate engagement is also relevant to your future endeavors. That being the case with blogging at the moment, I have to take it personal. Otherwise, there’s no point in making sense of myself. After all, I blog for the experience and in doing so I’ve learned so many things about bloggers in general and more specifically, myself in terms of my presence in the blogosphere.
I wish you a Happy Early Anniversary for the both of you. Have a great weekend!
Gosh, that’s a hard question! I guess I try to create discussion through my blog, so communication definitely, and not only that but there’s a sense of moral understanding as I see it in my life. Respect for others is also a big factor in what I write, a positive attitude and helping others to move forwards, these are all big aspects in my blog.
Enjoy the journey.
Mandy
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hello Mandy,
Thank you for attempting the hard question
. I apologize if it took you some juice to conjure but I am quite serious about how bloggers grow. The elements I’ve mentioned in relations to my relationship is one which I have become personally linked to. In finding that so, I have understand the commitment level towards long-term development. After all, we wish good things but if they don’t happen, we’re also blaming it on something we might haven’t yet understood in ourselves. I don’t want that to happen nor do I want that to be resident in my real relationships so your growth like your reality will constantly need assessment. Thanks for leaving a comment on your process. I appreciate the response and may you too enjoy your journey.
Thu
Hi Thu,
And welcome to the 100 challenge
It was very cool of you to make the graphics for Jacinta…
I popped over to stumble and leave a comment too – But Can I mention that I can’t see the edge of your blog in my FireFox browser as I can’t see a way to close the social link sidebar that overlaps the page??
The top and bottom ones closed – but the side one prevents me from easily reading everything
Have fun with the challenge
Randy
http://www.RandolfSmith.com
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Randy,
Yes, I thought there can nothing be more optimistic and devoted to making it happen than providing the originator of the idea a piece of my mind. The buttons themselves were in a sense a token of gratitude but most importantly my commitment towards the challenge.
I have changed the way the social buttons scroll. I noticed that on certain monitor screens you’ll get different results. So instead of maximizing it for one certain dimension, it is now universally the same. I really appreciate this tip as no one has mentioned it before. I’ll be over to your blog for the 100 comments challenge soon.
Cheers!
Thu
Twitter: barry_wells
says:
Hi Thu, congratulations on your wedding anniversary. It’s mine on the 26th August, 21 years married and i’m feeling old now that i’ve seen it on screen ha ha.
I totally agree with you Thu, to reach that milestone my wife and I have perfected our:
Communication
Understanding
Support
Compatibility
I’ve never thought of using those qualities in my blogging before, but now that you mention it I can see where you’re coming from and will apply them more in future.
Thanks for joining in the 100 Blog Comment Challenge, i’ve added your details to the relevent pages on my blog and twitter list. Thanks also for the images, they’re great.
Catch up soon Thu, Barry
Barry@The Newbies Guide´s last [type] ..Bloggers- Need A Little Lift
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Barry,
Thank you for the kind words. I am inspired by hearing 21 years. That’s blackjack!
I too will reach that milestone within a few decades. LOL Yes, as I thought about my vows, I kept it in terms of where I was at the moment and you see it really has a lot in common with blogging. For that, growing as a blogger is very much like growing in your own relationship.
Appreciate the add for Jacinta’s 100 Comment Challenge. Her idea is really great and while I know she calls it her ‘bimbo moment’, look at where it led us to?
I’ll be putting up my list soon too. Actually, I think that would be a great idea, a 100 blog comments shuffle, an ongoing blog hopping journey. You see, that’s what I call idea generation. Thank you so much for your comment Barry, I’ll too talk to you soon.
Thu
Twitter: SusanOT
says:
Thu, that was a great post! And a great question!
What elements do I use in blogging? Communication and stress relief are key for me. I often use my blog as a cathartic outpouring of stress if something has bothered me or just to work through a problem. I find that the post I end up publishing is often not the one I thought I was going to write in the beginning!
Blogging can be so much or so little – whatever you want really. I love the way that there is no wrong way to do it!
Cheers!
Susan Owen-Thursfield @ Natural Stress Relief Tips´s last [type] ..Sometimes it is easier to push on an open door
Twitter: thublogger
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Hi Susan,
Your input is a fantastic way in what blogging is taken nowadays. You’re right in that there is no right way towards blogging but what it means to you. The communication part is essential because it allows you to present your ideas or even rants. Sometimes you don’t realize it but you’re inspiring others. The way you’re blogging in terms of writing up something and it coming out another way is one of the surprises which comes with blogging effectively. In fact, you’re given so many different perspectives but I see that it gives you more and as a blogger, that is the ultimate effort. I’m glad you’re enjoying blogging the same. Thank you for your valuable feedback.
Cheers as well!
Hi Thu
Excellent post! I love how you liken blogging to your marriage vows, there is great meaning on how you have broken it down into specific sections relating it to your learning experience in blogging. There is certainly a maze of information out there about marketing on the internet, but it all comes down to building relathionships and trust with people you can rely on. Your approach to blogging will be well rewarded over time. Thank you for sharing.
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Twitter: thublogger
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Hello Stan,
Thank you for your valuable insight. I agree, without relationships online, blogging is nothing. However, that relationship starts with you and then moves on towards those whom you want to connect with. After all, it is the social bit which brings the momentum towards passion. Thank you again for your feedback and support. You’re very welcome for the share.
Hi Thu, good analogy for blogging. Blogging is very good for the mind. It lets what ever is in it out and helps build good relationships. If you go to my blog you will see the header speaks for itself. My blog is all about helping each other, in good times and bad with everything Internet Marketing.
I not only give insight. I get insight. This is what makes a good relationship to help each other move forward to reach our goals. Terry Conti
Terry Conti´s last [type] ..Sell your ebook on its own or put it on Clickbank What do you think
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Terry,
That’s a beautiful visual on your header. The mountaintop and helping each other through the climb. That’s what the business of marketing online is all about. Not only that you’re transparent with your list of business partners whom you’re working with. That’s valuable. I find the weekly reviews of your masterclass also a great summary of disclosing your workflow. It’s quite inspiring. Keep it up!
Hi Thu,
100 posts, congratulations. You are an excellent writer.
My wife and I have been married for 5 years, coming from very different backgrounds, she is Filipino and me English, at the start of our relationship I was lucky enough to live in the Philippines, out in the provinces, with Filipinos not the tourist places. This helped build our friendship and love. I understand her and were she is from, and she now lives in England so she understands me.
She supports me 100% with everything I do.
We have a solid existence together.
It sounds like you and your husband have the same.
Pete
Pete Carr-Blogging Genius´s last [type] ..Blogging-Why You Should BePart 1
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Pete,
Thank you for your nice comment. You guys look so happy on your About page. Your start with how you guys got together sounds very romantic however I’m sure the gist of it getting to where you’re at now took a bit of communication to finally say I do. I’m happy to also see you happy too! Yes, support is something we all need, no matter the consequences so I’m grateful for your share. Thank you for your kind feedback!
Hi Thu,
Thank you very much for spreading the word about the challenge and for creating the cool graphics…it’s much appreciated
I’ve been blogging on and off for a few years now and the one thing that used to stop me moving my blog forward was the theme of the content I put out there.
I seem to put up 100 or so posts…which at the time seem ok, but after a while I never seem happy with them, so they get deleted and I start again
I’ve done this three times so far
These days I really enjoy product creation and helping people. I make my income from the products I sell, and I now use my blog to interact and it’s becoming the place where I give away all of my IM knowledge for free…hopefully it will benefit a few people.
Thanks again for the graphics and it’s great to have you on board the challenge
Thanks
Steve
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Steve,
You’re very much welcome. Making the graphics is one way I could make the challenge personal thus, the labor is minimal to the final outcome. Wow! I can’t believe you dumped that much posts from the labor you’ve put into writing them. This blog is the first to 100 and I’ve learn from my mentor, Yaro Starak that everyday is about building vision and performance. Thus, I don’t think I could do that when it comes to deletion. However, selling the blog might be something to consider but it hasn’t yet crossed my mind.
Product creation is definitely the place to be now. If you don’t know how to brand yourself online nowadays, in terms of business that is a roadkill. I came over from your blog last night and I have to say you possess great knowledge with challenging the self towards achieving greater goals. The SMARTER goal in particular is something I will work on. With that the coaching you give I’m sure will present to students ways to achieve higher standards as well.
Thank you so much for you valuable comment and I’m glad to be on this great challenge with so many awesome bloggers.
Hi Nguyen,
Before I read your post, I had not thought much about organizing my blogging content like you. If there is any, it will be the following 2 things I kept in mind.
(1) Always Keep It Real by being sincere and honest on what you wrote
(2) Always remember behind every bloggers or visitors there is a Real Person
The 4 elements you lay out may be simple at the 1st glance, but is actually pretty Thought Provoking.
Communication/ Understanding/ Support/ Compatibility
Important, but never easy to get it right as it involves more than one party to start with.I used to be a person who embrace rationality by all means.I used to think that as long as I listen attentively, response with empathy, ask good question and look out for the win-win scenario in any communication, I can consider myself as a Good Communicator.
As the years goes by, I figure behind every rational mind and person there are always hidden agendas that are sometime not really rational that the person are not even aware themselves. ( Me, myself is one of them). Here’s what I thought about your 4 ELEMENTS Of BLOGGING:
(1) Communication
This must be a 2 way process, not only in the sense of conveying the message and listening. But also conveying the positive and negative. Like what you wrote..”let the other person know that you don’t like the way your hand is being gripped in order for them to loosen up.” Too many times we tend to communicate to please and not saying what we really mean, sitting on the fence so we can be safe.
We need to make our stand before we can be better.if you know what I mean
(2) Understanding
Seek First to Understand,Then to be Understood
As written in Stephen Covey’s Best Seller [The 7 habits of highly effective people]. This quote was embraced by a lot of people when ever they talk about communication. Yet it will work wonders only when 2 parties have the same mentality.
There are times we seek 1st to understand to someone who ONLY want to be understood. They will agree on the surface, but only want their point of view to be accepted by all mean.
So which come 1st? Sound like an “Egg 1st or Chicken 1st ?” kind of paradox.
(3) Support
You make a good point here.
I recently have a private mentoring student who started blogging and kind of get carried away about how one should leave the best comment and reply on others blog. No problem actually, only thing is that he wanted the same in return….”obsessively”.
Whenever someone failed to reply on his comment with the same amount or “value” of content, he will feel kind of “disturbed”. While we all agree is better to leave a comment with some thought rather than the usual “Good Post! Keep It Up” kind of comment. The value of each comment is really subjective.
I told him to keep in mind that there is a real person behind every blog he visited and those who visit his blog. They come from all kind of backgrounds and education level, with different challenges and struggles in their life. Sometime as simple as it may seem, a short comment or reply may be just what they mean from their heart. I reminded him how some great bloggers had supported his post with good response even they had just known him.
For what I know, blogger in general respect and support each other with good will. This one of the main reasons I love about blogging.
(4) Compatibility
Well, whenever me or my friends came across someone at work who is just “impossible” to communicate and work with, I used to comfort them saying” “There are people and there are people.”
It all still boils down to what I said in response to your 1st element.
“Compatibility is still…. a 2 Way Process”.
Like you , I now try to learn how not to bother too much with the little things that used to bug me, not only in blogging but in life at large. But in the Real Life Offline World, some people just couldn’t let it go for a second.
A real life example will be the Vice President of the company I work for. This morning, he called me into a meeting to discuss a “English Grammar Mistake” in the “Disclaimer” he found on the manual of a product we will be launching in 2-3months.
Here’s what happened…
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The manual wrote…
“….make sure the contents of this manual are correct and up to date. ”
“It should be update” He said
I said if he want to use update, updated will be a better choice.
He insist of using update, and was about to call more people, including the RD people into the meeting for more support for him.
I told him straight off that is OK, I will change it to update. Then he tell me that he will think about it and tell me later.
That is an expensive meeting because the VP cost the company at least USD7K per month.
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Is really lucky that in blogging, like minded people and friends is easier to find. Things like this seldom happen. For me, I simply correct any typo I spot on my visitors comment if I do spot one.
Is the real person behind the like minded people behind the comment that matters.
Thank you for your thought provoking post.
I am going to re-think my whole blogging approach.
Cheers
Jason Ser
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Jason,
I like your simple approach to blogging. Transparency is everything and also being considerate brings an element of humanness to the table. As for rationality, it depends on who you’re talking to. While you may think that you are quite on spot, others may think different. The most important thing is you respecting you and not let anyone predict who you are. I think it comes in line with identity as well as your self-esteem perspective too. You kind of have to give yourself that pep talk of which nobody understands but yourself. I really appreciate you sharing this story because it’s all about self-development when it comes to communication. Your sense of rationality I believe came with time because it had to. I mean beliefs aren’t challenged until it comes just as all relationships goes, it starts with you.
Your responses on:
Communication – the hand grip metaphor is all too real for me as it is the first place which we all extend ourselves. Thus ‘making your stand’ might cause friction on some level but being out in the open saves you the trouble of explaining yourself in the end.
Understanding – I will have to place that quote in my book but the egg analogy makes more sense
Support – I admire how you went about coaching your student to see his feedback. It is true. Sometimes you run into a couple sentences person and others paragraphs. It’s a trial and error run and expecting too much because you have done the same is only going to lead you to disappointment. Your reason with seeing the good in bloggers is a better approach. Not only that, it helps with moving on towards better things like content creation.
Compatibility – The great thing about online ventures is you can close the discussion or even ignore it but like the real world that brings steam and you’re right, some will not let it go. Best way to go about it is to see it in terms of traffic. John calls it handling negative comments. When I reviewed his Ultimate Blog Profit Model, he specified how they help boost his ratings. So I guess it’s a matter of perspective.
As for your VP, that story kind of made my day. Wasting a lot of money per arguing on what you want, sometimes you can only do what you have to but as an employee having that say becomes a matter of testing your VP’s intelligence. LOL Thanks so much Jason for your thoughtful comments. I am sure I have a lot to learn from you and will continue to visit your blog to continue our conversations as I enjoy the exchange of information we got here.
I’m glad you got something worth thinking about towards blogging as well. I try my best to convey what is from the heart which I feel is necessary with blogging. Talk to you soon!
Thu
Twitter: johnmcnally54
says:
A thought provoking post Thu.
Blogging is a new experience for me as I have never kept a personal diary. Blogs are better than old-fashioned diaries because they are multi-media with photos, screen-shots, music and videos to illustrate your point. Even better than that, blogs are inter-active, so you get a response to your post with contrasting views on the subject.
An unexpected bonus for me is that friendships develop and you feel part of a new community. There’s a lot of upside to blogging, and I have come to enjoy it. The downside may be that it can take up a lot of time, if you let it get out of control.
Good luck with the 100 comment challenge Thu.
John
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Twitter: thublogger
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Hi John,
Blogging is too a new experience for me as I have only been at it seriously for over 3 months. With the new integration of media networks and even better video, anything is possible to go viral. Thus personal branding has a better chance this way too. I too find that building relationships through blogging has many benefits on the social side but like yourself the time constraints with which comes with it deserves it’s own discipline. Overall, I wouldn’t give up blogging for now. I find that it enriches my life no matter the time involve. I see it as a personal investment in me and any possible assets which comes as an extension of sharing my knowledge.
Thank you so much for the wishes John, see you on the 100th comment!
Hi Thu,
Wow! love the comparison…. I agree a blog is relationship building cause you are sharing your thoughts with the reader…
There is not a lot new I can say …. I enjoyed it
Good to meet you… well done 100 blog posts in only 3 months.
Good to have met you
Cheers
Bryan
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Bryan,
Thanks for the cheers! I am really excited that the 100 comments challenge have brought in a lot of bloggers of all different backgrounds and education. I’m glad to meet you too! Yes, relationship building is the core of all things blogging but most importantly, it’s the value within the connection. I hope you have found something valuable with what was written. Thanks for commenting. I hope to talk to you soon.
Thu
Hey Thu,
I really like your blog. It seems like you have some cool plug-ns installed and the gray tones really set it off.
J
My Video Talk
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Twitter: thublogger
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Hi J,
I started off with gray because I didn’t want to exactly gear towards a solid or even brightly colored theme. Thus the minimalism used is only a testing ground. Who knows I may go bold! Thanks for the compliments and your kind comment.
Thu
Twitter: thatgirlisfunny
says:
Thu,
Your post makes me realize that I didn’t give enough thought to the post that I submitted for the 100 comment challenge. I offered one that had comments already. I thought wouldn’t it be great to have 100 comments on it. So that’s happened through being in the challenge. But, wait a minute, if I don’t count my own replies, it still has a way to go to reach 100 comments. Ah, so now we see something that occurs to me as a result of your self-examination and your question.
I skim posts – I read fast. Of course, I miss things. When I behave like that with people it causes problems. Communication and understanding play a key role in any relationship – online or off.
I’m pledging to slow down and digest more. I wonder what I’ll notice…like chewing my food thoughtfully instead of gobbling it down
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Cheryl,
Don’t worry about it. I too sometimes think that the overall comments at least if it’s up to 100 I’m jumping for joy but yes, we don’t count our own comments. You know that could be a slogan for the TGIF Links challenge who knows … slow down and get more links in.
Thanks for your valuable thoughts Cheryl. As always, you make me laugh.
Thu
Hi Thu
Thanks for a thought provoking post, I try to use my own blog to share my internet marketing experiences (good and bad!) with my readers.
I have learned so much from reading other marketer’s blogs and this sharing of information and experiences helps us all grow.
Stuart
Stuart Turnbull´s last [type] ..We need your ‘make money online’ ideas!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Stuart,
Thank you for comment. It’s true. We alone cannot know what we’re capable of and even others if we don’t step out and find out more what there is out there. Sometimes blogging itself can be a containing process but once you make the initial move to build relations with other bloggers. The shift in momentum starts to turn. You can’t stop. Glad you enjoyed the post and also for the feedback.
Thu
Hi Thu,
what a great post, I particularly thought that the audio was brilliant, rather than read it I just listened to the post. Some really interseting stuff here and I like the way that you draw the parallels,
Best wishes
Rob
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Rob,
I’m glad you can make use of the audio as I wasn’t sure if it was being of good use at all. The vox itself is something I have yet to asked my readers and so I wonder.
Good to see that listening is something on the list for blogging. As I continue to advance with blogging, the multimedia aspect will also as well. Thanks for your kind comment.
Thu
Twitter: Alexwhalley23
says:
You’ve really approached this from a unique perspective Thu, I think it reads brilliantly and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Blogging is a lot like marriage in more ways than you think, because like marriage – blogging is great to begin with but soon you see the cracks start to appear and that’s when you really need to knuckle down and ‘do what it takes’
Thanks Thu.
Oh btw, awesome work on the 100 comments buttons!
Alex@niche site marketing´s last [type] ..The Ultimate Keyword Research Resource – Available Now!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Ha! ‘Knuckle down and do what it takes’. You make it sound like prison Alex. j/k Thanks for your reply as we both know, relationships are everything for anything we do online. Establishing one which makes it personal for you allows you to go at it with your heart, mind and eventually spirit. I try to at least put in my efforts more that 110% but sometimes you know, it’s a drain but I keep at it because I love it. That’s also like saying I can’t leave everyone hanging. However, first and foremost, you have to decide what you want to do and stick to it until you can make it happen.
Thanks for the compliments and for dropping by Alex, I appreciate your engaging thoughts.
Thu
Twitter: http://igorgriffiths.com
says:
Hi Thu
This is what I love about blogging. You can, as you have done, take an everyday event and turn it into an inspirational lesson.
Sharing the real you, for me, is the joy of blogging. It allows the sharing of ideas without pressure or fear of the dreaded sales pitch.
igor
igor Griffiths´s last [type] ..The Facebook Guide
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Igor,
Thank you for your feedback and compliments. I definitely agree, when you can portray your thoughts into something personal but also convey your purpose as a value which you want to give out, readers will feel it. Thus, I compared marriage to blogging because both over time need the TLC which helps it grow. Thanks again for your thoughts.
Thu
Twitter: franalm
says:
Hi Thu Nguyen:
My name is Fran and I am new to 100 comments challenge. I read your blog post that you have entered in the challenge. Very well written and formatted post. Congratulations to your two years of married bond. I wish, and I am sure with the way you unserstand this partnership it will last forever. Your post clearly tells what it takes to create a strengthful relationship and how to manage it. This post has to be most read post in the blogsphere. I will like to read more of your posts in future.
Talk again
Fran Aslam
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Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Fran,
I hope you’re finding your blog hopping well. Thank you so much for the support and also great wishes. It really means a lot.
Hi Thu….
I just pipped Barry at the post…It`s 22 years of marriage to my lovely wife ….with our 5th grandchild on the way…..
With respect to the 4 elements :Communication between us can be on occasions almost telepathic in which the understanding of each others needs and desires can be quite scary. According to our star signs, we are totally compatible, though when we do disagree it is never really heated, we just agree to disagree. So whoever is right or wrong we will always support each other ..
I can see there is certainly a lot of encouragement and support within the blogging community, and as a “newbie” I am looking forward to making new friends..This 100 comment challenge is a great way of doing that……
Congratulations and Good Luck
all the best …..MIKE
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Mike,
Wow, Barry, Yourself and Michael P. I have a lot to learn from you both but I’m sure it’s going to great relationship building because I admire how you guys have stuck to the long road through thick and thin. Thanks so much for the inspiration and your feedback!
Twitter: Craig_Sowerby
says:
Hi Thu,
I am fairly new to this blogging world. I have only had my blog up and running this year, so I have still alot to learn. I use it to put my thoughts and achievement of what I have been doing in the marketing world.
I have never really approached it in the way you mentioned
* Communication
* Understanding
* Support
* Compatibility
Obviously I want it to communicate to my readers and subscribers. Understanding what I want from it and how it all works. Giving support to others and my self from visiting blogs like this one and many others. Compatibility to find like minded people and create relationships to help progress forward.
I have never really thought of my blogging in this way I have just gone ahead and done it. I hope I don’t go now and look to deep into my blogging antics and rehash everything.
Cheers
Craig
Craig Sowerby´s last [type] ..Put Your Email Marketing On Auto Pilot By Using An Auto responder
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Craig,
Yes, I believe we all do this naturally but don’t really realize that it’s more than that. While I have expand it to include the everyday commitment which I face, I believe it’s pretty much like making a relationship work. As long as you’re aware of it, that’s the way to good. I appreciate you leaving your thoughts on the subject.
Cheers,
Thu
Hi Thu,
This is a most amazing post. If I was to grade it, I would have to say it is one of the best I have read here in this 100 blog marathon. You are so right on with relationships.
It is funny how in control so many of us think we have to be to function. Our way is the only way.
It was funny. I use to help my wife with her dishes and she would rewash them because I did not wash them same way she did. Like there is only “one” way to wash them. Or do anything in this life. It is like so many want a clone of themselves running around.
Even little things like how a tube of toothpaste is squeezed can send a relationship into a tail spin.
I love your approach. So very well done and you have learned so much. Thank you.
Justin
Justin Case´s last [type] ..Cost Vs Price – Is There A Difference
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Justin,
Yes, we all run with different herds but there are specific approaches to things being done. I love that you were able to associate the differences through washing the dishes and squeezing a toothpaste tube. I believe it’s the little things that makes you think about the larger things. Thus, I thank you for leaving feedback on this post.
Cheers,
Thu
Twitter: roonie_g
says:
Hi Thu and thanks for the graphics!
Elements to my blogging?
Having FUN!! I used to be afraid to write blog posts and they sucked as you can tell in my earlier posts. Now I just write about whatever I think might be fun or interesting.
I love WordPress and all it can do, so I have been studying different plugins, tweaks and graphics, and sharing some of what I learn on my blog.
Blogging, like a marriage takes mucho dedication and commitment.
I think we have both.
Take care and thanks again!
Lisa´s last [type] ..How Did I Get HERE
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Lisa,
You’re right about that final element. How can I be so careless! Without fun, there’s no happiness. Well I must say you’ve got me there. I agree that with all the commitment and dedication, why not take the passion into making it all that you’ve got. After all, it’s your blog and if you’re not having fun, might as well stop. Heh. Thanks again Lisa for your thoughtful comment.
Thu
Hi Thu,
What a well thought out and written post! I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and your comparisons between the success of your marriage and blogging was very, very clever indeed!
I love blogging…and, although I am no longer married, I was long enough to know how much commitment it takes…same with blogging. You cannot be a successful blogger part time.
As my marriage grew, so I continued to grow myself and my relationship. I found a similar thing with blogging. It was very awkward at first….fumbling around from topic to topic until I discovered my passion.
Both things take work and dedication….
Thank you for such wise words this morning!
Kathy
Kathy Dobson@Outsourcing to the Philippines´s last [type] ..HiveDesk…Track Your Outsourced Workers Time
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Kathy,
Thank you for your kind words. Definitely true that being a blogger takes more than part-time efforts. It’s really your flagship online. So you have to constantly go at it and make it work much like anyone you want to get to know. I appreciate your feedback and am glad that you’d like the post.
Thu
I like your analogy, Thu. Very thoughtful and insightful.
The trouble with this blog challenge is that some people are not going the the post that was entered in the challenge. Instead they are following the links for the latest post that appear with CommentLuv. I don’t think it matters though because the blog is getting traffic and comments.
I also notice that a lot of people are leaving very long comments. The idea of commenting is to leave short valuable comments.
Sandy
SandyHalliday@MakingMoneyOnTheInternet´s last [type] ..Failure Is Not An Option In Making Money Online
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Sandy,
Yes, I believe when you affix a challenge with something this big, you get to see the creative side as well. So I guess it comes with the confusion on the posts and the types of comment that is being put out. However, I do enjoy that someone has taken out the time to craft a great response. Thanks for your feedback and also wise insight there.
Thu
Hi Thu
I think a healthy sense of humour can help a great deal in marriage, in blogging and in an internet marketing online business!
I’ve posted a link to this page on identi.ca for you (makes a change from Twitter!)
Martyn Boaden´s last [type] ..What Was Your Biggest Challenge When You Started Your Internet Marketing Online Business
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Martyn,
Definitely a sense of humor is something I’ve forgotten to mention. Shame on me. Thank you for that. I will have to adjust it now.
Thu
Hi Thu,
Congratulations on your wedding anniversary!
I am not married yet but I will keep in mind your love elements, when I find my other half..
And yes it is true. You have to build your relationships online as you would build your own personal relationship in life.
Take care,
Andreas
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Andreas,
Thank you so much for the anniversary wishes. Keep at it my friend, when you find that other half, you already have the elements in place. Oh, I must add, a sense of humor really helps too as some of my commentators mentioned.
Cheers!
Thu
Twitter: anne_bain
says:
Hi Thu
Great post. You are so right in what you say about relationships integrating overtime no matter where they are occurring. To be successful in anything building relationships is the key.
Best wishes
Anne
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Anne,
Relationships are everything online. It’s also everything offline as well. What I’ve noticed is ‘it’s not what you know but who you know’ which rings true. I know it’s cliched but it’s true. Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it!
Hi Thu
Thanks for making the graphics.
Not being domesticated, I find your perspective very challenging. I see the value in it though and will ponder it without the mate to practice it on. My relationships tend to be a bit more distant, yet the underlying things that make them work seem similar. Just not as intimate. My elements tend towards concern and teaching towards those concerns.
Thanks
Alex
Alex@first100items´s last [type] ..Heating
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Alex,
Yes, relationships are quite a challenge. Who says it’s easy but I’ve learn as long as you have something, it doesn’t have to be someone, building a relationship with your work can be very fulfilling indeed. It’s getting the love in and the commitment that comes with that through understanding, compassion and compatibility, well you get the idea. This concept is more or less about you and what you want to grow with. Concern already is a communication element. You’re already letting others know what it is you’re doing and the support that comes with it only then leads to them understanding and thus, if it’s something meant to be long-term, compatibility. Thank you for leaving your thoughts on this matter.
Thu
Great article,
Least to say it was inspirational.
Thanks!
Daniel
Daniel M. Wood @ Sales Techniques, Motivation and Success´s last [type] ..How to Use Motivation to Accomplish Your Goals and Start Living Your Dream Life
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Daniel,
Thank you. I’m glad you found it worth the while and that it has impacted you in some way. You’re very welcome!
Hello Thu, it’s a pleasure to meet you! I enjoyed your article very much. You have a great understanding and appreciation for good communication and it shows. It probably goes without saying but I find that a commitment and steady focus are critical elements to successful blogging. Good luck in the challenge ahead Thu and I look forward to reading your work, be well, Steve D.
Steve@bookmarking´s last [type] ..Bookmarking URLS Favicon Style
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Steve,
Thank you for your kind comments. I try to make my articles do all the talking. I’m glad you found it effective. I wish you luck as well in the challenge and once again thank you for checking out the blog. It means a lot!
Cheers!
Thu
Hi Thu …
Lots of food for thought … I’ve read your post yesterday and again today, took me a day to respond
You have AMAZINGLY put across the the similarities in marriage relationship and blogging. Some of my thoughts around this …
Communication – I think communication might not only be about reading, writing & speaking .. it also means saying the right things at the right time to the right people .. an example would be flagging an issue to you customer about a delay in delivering a project though you know you may get screwed for it, but its for the good of your customer (sorry the IT language and example from within me
) … assumptions are harmful … my IT director of a previous company taght me the meaning of assume (Ass U & Me : which means it makes an Ass out of U and Me 
Understanding – I think a major part of understanding your blog reader or your partner or any other relationship for that matter is to have feedbacks … a feedback gives you an assurance that you understand your partner, readers, etc by considering their feedback and getting to know them (their needs, their thoughts) better. Likewise you need to provide feedback to your partner, readers, etc – this bit is also equally important. This helps improve understanding between …
Support – again I feel this sometime becomes tricky. Support can make the other partner dependant, it should be given away in a way that its not taken for granted. I really am not sure whether this should be applied in blogging or internet business, but yes, in a relationship, I think its important for our partner to know that I am ALWAYS there for him/her but not making them dependent on you … again I hope I’ve not moved away from the theme of this section!
Compatibility – hmm.. I think its just a matter of different frequencies of different people … if we understand them, we can tackle them or work with them but not true for a partner, I guess.
Again all this is 2 way as Jason says, however though it takes 2 to tango, someone needs to initiate this
I think loyalty is one more thing that is very important to any relationship ….
That’s been a long comment and I hope I not gone off-topic. Had a few thoughts so sharing it here!
Good post! Nice to meet you.
Cheers!
Abize
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Abizer,
Great comment!
I don’t mind you unleashing all that you’ve got inside. I want to hear it all. After all, it’s the important part in understanding what the reader thinks here and you’ve made a great statement. Communication is ‘saying the things at the right time to the right people’. Normally this is overlooked and that’s like pitching blank words to someone who doesn’t want to listen. So thank you for clarifying this.
Next, understanding is definitely about feedback. As yours here have made me see more into my relationship building and I will too include these points towards implementation.
Third, wow, you’ve really analyzed the other side with dependency. Great insight. I too feel that can be a problem thus balancing the communication and understanding can help with this. In a sense, too much can lead to someone being spoiled so there’s got to be a stance to how far your support may seep into that the other has to take action on their part as well and you not being the one in control all the time.
Last, personal and professional could be the tricky thing here as you’ve said. So while I think compatibility helps me with my work, I also understand we have the right to disagree. With that, focusing on the work at hand helps you not go astray.
Finally, loyalty, ah that’s the ultimate glue which combines all the above doesn’t it? I find it that might be a life-long commitment and in marriage that is absolutely true. In ideas as well. However, with business for some reason it doesn’t fit. Perhaps faith is more the answer. Faith brings the down back up when you’re heading towards troubled waters. In business there may be a lot of those stresses but with faith, in your work and your client, it all goes well.
Thank you so much for you awesome comment Abize. So good to meet you too.
I’ll see you soon,
Thu
Hi Thu,
Wow, you are a star in the making! I am very impressed with not only your post, but your blog, use of widgets, communication skills ,etc… If you are that good, you must have a pretty special husband as well!
Even though you have been married for a relatively short time, it sounds like you are a seasoned veteran and your marriage will stand the test of time! I will definitely be dropping by more often to see what you are up to. Keep up the great work and I may need to ask for some advice on my blog.
All the best!
Mark
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Mark,
Thank you for the kind words, I only write what I know and with that the honesty which I want to portray is through the work, look and feel. I’m glad you like it! No problem. I’m open to helping others so if there’s anything you need, just shoot! I’ll be here Mark. Thanks again for your feedback and I’ll see you soon.
Thu
Twitter: JacintaDean
says:
Hi Thu,
I finally got here!
Just a little busy with this little challenge I started! 
Oops on that one! 
Re my blogging. I have never really thought about it. When I first started blogging I had a personal blog that I just wrote anything on. A couple of months into that and I realised I wanted to create a blog more dedicated to creating a business online hence ‘Creating My Business Online’ was born.
However when I started that blog, I didn’t write regularly, Truthfully I didn’t know if I had any readers. It was about 12 months ago when I really started to concentrate on my blog a little more and introduced some themes to it. I was writing about my weekly tasks so people could see the mundane things you need to do to try and set up a business online. Plus I started writing the detailed summaries on the training I had been doing with John Thornhill.
Once I had a focus on the topics I wanted to write about it became easier to write more on a regular basis. Up until the challenge I was blogging once a week. I would like to do more, however I only have so many hours in the day around my little one. Plus I am still learning this journey!
I do value my readers a lot more now that I know I actually have readers and thanks to a few positive comments I also introduced a motivational series.
Blogging is a growing journey. It has taken a lot of time that my hubby often questions me on, however he is still very supportive of what I am doing and I think he can see the bigger picture with all of this.
Truthfully I think the whole concept is about relationship building, sharing knowledge and community spirit. And yes I would agree you can relate it to marriage.
Hope everything is going well with the challenge. I have started my rounds I have 60 blogs to go! oops on that one!
See you back here soon!
Cheers
Jacinta
Jacinta Dean´s last [type] ..The 100 Blog Comment Challenge Update!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Jacinta,
You made it! Blogging does take a little time as you’ve said it only happened about a year ago that you’ve seriously began to think about your online business. I know it can be quite a journey as the masterclass notes you’ve put up is a valuable tool, and everyone who’s part of the commenting challenge seems to have their own version. This shows there’s more to business online than the pizazz which we’re all enamored with.
Also I’m about 20 behind you but I’ll get there eventually. It’s hustling time! Thanks so much for bringing this idea up. While it’s been a whirlwind I know it’s creating relationships left and right. So far, we’ve just reached the 100th participant and if so, I think this torch should be passed on to another blogger to bring in more bloggers down the line. I don’t know, it’s been fun and I just can’t stop. It’s great to be connected to a community that reads your work. I’ll see on the 100th comment Jacinta!
Thu
Hi Thu,
Thank you for your very interesting and thought provoking post, it is very worthy of the challenge. I have also been pleased to use one of your button graphics Thu, so thanks for this also.
We all need to work on our relationships throughout our lives, whether that be our marriage, family, friends, business or just people. So your analogy is a really appropriate one Thu.
I have found that being able to blog hop, share views and meet new people from all over the world has really helped my off line relationship skills also.
Very nice to meet you on the challenge Thu and I look forward to visiting your blog again soon.
Best Wishes,
Brian
Brian Alcock´s last [type] ..So You Failed…So What!!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Brian,
Thank you for leaving me your comment on this post. I agree, relationships online can do a lot for you offline. Everyone work differently and there’s something about the solitary work which helps you evolve into a better communicator. I’m glad you found the information appropriate as I can only talk about what’s real to me and your feedback is very much appreciated.
I’ll see you soon!
Cheers,
Thu
Twitter: alljessilicious
says:
Hi Thu!
Congrats on your 2 year wedding anniversary!
And well done on comparing it to blogging. It’s neat to see how lessons learned in one area of our lives can translate into another. Just goes to show that we are ONE person, with many different interests, aspects, etc, but that it all works together.
Jess Webb´s last [type] ..Sustainability for Digital Entrepreneurs
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Jess,
You definitely got it right. It’s about oneness. While marriage is the metaphor here, it’s conveying yourself to do something wholeheartedly and finding meaning with it. Thanks so much for your insightful comment!
Twitter: TomJHarvey
says:
Thu
Great article with some useful insights and a great analogy likening the commitment to blogging (or online business) to marriage in the sharing of similar traits and virtues needed to succeed.
Thanks for the graphics and pleasure to meet you in the 100 comment challenge.
Tom
Tom Harvey @ Tom-Harvey.com´s last [type] ..Video Marketing – Anatomy Of A Successful Affiliate Campaign
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Tom,
Nice to meet you too! You’re welcome for the graphics and I’m glad you found the article’s analogy rich with insight. I’m mentioned before that I can only talk about what I know but sometimes tying that into what you’re aiming for is also worthwhile. Thank you for stopping by and leaving your feedback on this article. Much appreciated.
Thu
Hi Thu,
Interesting analogy of yours between blogging and marriage. I have been married 41 years and this 100 comment challenge feels like it’s been going on for that long! – Only joking!
The great thing about visiting other people’s blogs is all the good information and tips you can pick up.
Regards,
Bill
Bill Murney´s last [type] ..Research- Research- Research
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Bill,
Wow! Your the 5th person so far which has outdid the all of the rest! There’s got to be a lot to learn from you and 41 years is a milestone! Thanks so much for your inspiration and insightful thoughts.
Twitter: Rick_Byrd
says:
Thu:
This is a great post! I really enjoyed it and I really like your style.
I consider communication a two-way street. That is the great thing about a blog; readers can leave a comment and start a discussion about a blog post. If only one person is doing the talking/writing, it is not considered communication.
Support is more important than some people might think. My online business keeps me busy and I need the support of my family to allow me the time to work on it. The support of my readers and customers is important because they are my business. Lastly the support of other online business owners is important so we can help each other with issues that may come up. It is great to have people that you can lean on during times of struggle.
It is interesting to see how marriage and blogging are similar in the respect to the 4 elements you presented.
- Rick
Rick Byrd @ MarketingWithRick.com´s last [type] ..Business Ethics – Is There Such a Thing
Twitter: seanandlauren
says:
Hi Thu. Your analogy to marriage reminds me of the idea that
“The way you are with one this is the way you are with all things”
As one approaches her relationship with her partner, so too will she be with blogging… and every other aspect of life. Probably not consciously, but on a deeper level. Thank you for sharing your journey and reminding us that everything is intertwined. And congrats on your anniversary!
Peace,
Lauren
Lauren Lionheart´s last [type] ..Can Blogging About Cupcakes Earn a Full Time Income
Hi Thu, Iv’e eventually made it, Well done on the two year mark, My gorgeous wife and myself have just passed our 25th anniversary (Aug 10th) and to be honest we have never been happier than we are now. Your 4 points you mentioned have been the mainstay of our relationship and I can see how this could be transferred into the blogging arena. Great work & analagy Thu. Look forward to your life of happiness as it really does get better as time passes if you know in your heart you have the right partner.
Keith
Keith Alston´s last [type] ..Holiday Time Again!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Keith,
Thank you so much for your wishes. It’s great to see so many wonderful bloggers who agree but also I’d like to see more of why not. However, I’ll accept that we all agree on relationship building as being key to our efforts online. Thank you so much for being an inspiration and also for your feedback!
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Lauren,
It’s definitely about weaving those life paths together. Thank you so much for your comment and also for the great quotes! You couldn’t have put it better.
Powerful post. Blogging is a great way to express how we feel. Its a great outlet. Thanks for sharing! I like to toolbar at the bottom of your blog. How do you get it?
Amy Steelman-Prueter´s last [type] ..Are you up for the Challenge
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Amy!
Sorry to respond late but you can get the toolbar from http://www.wibiya.com/. It’s FREE and fully customizable. Thanks so much for your feedback and yes, while blogging is a great outlet, it’s also a platform for growth.
Regards!
Thu
Twitter: sallyneill
says:
Hi Thu,
Support support and more support I say!
I would never have got so far online and with my blog without the support of my friends on and offline, and the kind people who take time out of their own busy schedule to visit my blog and leave a comment.
Get personal too, I try to be as personal as I can on my blog, let people see another side to me, I think this helps build up relationships with your readers.
And humour, I just love humour, who says it has to be all serious all of the time!
Sally
Sally @ blog hopping queen´s last [type] ..Writing Testimonials Benefit You Too
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Very great points Sally,
These I will consider as you have really put yourself out there and have been successful at it too. Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I did forget humor huh? Yes, that too!
Hi Thu
Marriage and blogging – that’s an unusual but very well considered comparison.
I’ve been married for 41 years – the big question is, will I still be blogging in 41 years?!
Hmmm, I’ll be 101 years old then, so maybe not.
Warm Regards
Lynn
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Lynn,
LOL, yes, for the moment, blogging is pretty much a marriage. After 41 years, perhaps depending on the online developments, there will be some type of blogging still going on. At least for me. Thanks for your feedback!
Hi Thu,
I’m new to blogging but am fortunate enough to be part of the 100 blog comment challenge. Your post has put into words so aptly the experiences I am going through at the moment it’s so like the early days of marriage new, exciting and a little scary like a journey into the unknown.
100 blog posts in 3 months is amazing – keep writing
Enjoy the challenge
Michelle
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Michelle,
Yes, it’s persistence, major commitment and also devotion. Hmmm, somewhere I forgot that.
Nevertheless, it takes practice to build the endurance to blog. I wish you success with your endeavor as well. Thanks so much for your feedback!
Thu,
Great web post and great analogy of how blogging is kind of like being married. Truly loved your article on marriage.
Thanks for the buttons you made. I have one on my site! Great meeting you.
Cheers,
Kats
Kat@eBayLearning´s last [type] ..10 Tips to Buying Cars on eBay Motors
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Kat!
I’m glad you like the buttons. I like them too!
Yes, marriage is really new to me and yet I’m still embracing it as the first day it happened. It has helped me feel confident about what I do and I’ve taken that to blogging as well. Thanks so much for your feedback!
Twitter: gwenatanner
says:
Hi Thu,
So glad to have met you on the 100 Comment Challenge. You have put together some great blogging guidelines here. Compatibility is something very interesting to consider and something I have never really thought about!
Hope you’re enjoying the challenge,
Gwen
Gwen Tanner@Product Creation Blog´s last [type] ..10 Free Tools for Your Product Creation Toolkit
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Gwen,
Compatibility is something I started out with. Needless to say, you feel when you can connect with a blogger. Just because many bloggers are telling you this and that, it’s also relevant to how you connect. Not just for the link juice you know. Thank you for your comment!
Twitter: michaelpedzotti
says:
Congratulations on the 2nd year anniversary and to Barry on his 21st. Well done. My wife and I are coming up for our 25th this year
The four elements you have so cleverly highlighted do remain important keys to a long term, successful relationship – whether it is in marriage or business.
It is good to read about successful relationships.
Michael.
Michael Pedzotti@software tools for bloggers´s last [type] ..Guess who is guest posting
Twitter: thublogger
says:
Hi Michael,
I must be learning more about relationships from you. First Barry at 21 and yours at 25? Wow, I have so much to learn from you both. I’ll definitely follow along as I grow older to look back and say, ‘Yeah, I was there’
Thanks for your comment!
Hi Thu
Lovely post. It was only after reading the comments that I discovered that I could have listened to it as well. Humour is critical-seeing the funny side, that’s my thought anyway. Life and blogging as one!
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Mike
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Hi Mike
Great point. Humor is definitely one which I have not mentioned and is so much relevant as well. Thank you for your feedback!
Hi Thu
I am going to be totally honest here when I started to read about marriage and all that I thought Oh no here we go Girly stuff. But you have completly changed my view, there are words of wisdom, and true honest advice. This 100 blog challege has opened my eyes and I am greatful to have had the chance to read your post. I have gone back and read it again.
Your blog is cool
Vince
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Hi Vince,
I know that opening up the post with sentimental values might lose some readers but I glad you stuck to the end and found my thoughts worth pondering on. Thank you for your feedback and also for reading the post again!
Hi Thu
Loved how you managed to add blogging to marriage and thank you for creating the graphics for the blog challenge.
Nice to meet you. Dawn Kay
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Thank you Dawn for the compliments. I appreciate the feedback and it’s so very nice to meet you too!
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